Tuesday, January 26, 2016

It's the Hard Knock Life

Been a rough two years. Jobloss and an abusive relationship I am now out of later I'm back. Trying to get on my feet again. Had a transition suspension which I will post more about soon.

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Saturday, September 7, 2013

Crown Ridge Apartments in Edmond, Oklahoma Are Terrible

This place is awful.

Crown Ridge Apartments
2500 Thomas Drive
Edmond, OK 73003

When I first moved in everything seemed rosey and nice. As with most Oklahoma City Metro Area Apartments, that changed quickly.

On September 1st, I went to make my payment as usual. All seemed routine, I had money in there, online said payment successful. Rents Due on the 3rd and in my two years here I have NEVER ONCE been late on a payment. I noticed it had not gone through on Wednesday, but being holiday week I just figured Friday. After all, I had the money. Well Friday comes around and I have the notice of death on my door.

Now they are charging me $100 on top of another $50, because supposedly being month to month I'm supposed to pay $50 more. When the last paper I got them on lease renewal specifically stated I would only be charged $665 a month, my normal, every month rent. When you point out that the $50, they just refer you to the lease, despite you having a recent HAND SIGNED paper saying it's $665.

So they charged me $100 on top of that since my rent was suddenly late, even though I had the funds ready to go.

Now I have to hassle with carrying hundreds of dollars and getting a money order or cashiers check, and again paying extra. Very hard working two jobs.

USE THE ONLINE AT YOUR OWN RISK

It could very well cost you hundreds of dollars if something hiccups somewhere, and as they say, you are ultimately responsible. Go get your cashiers check or money order.

So that's the financial part. What else is there?

There are no gates. The apartment guides and website says there are. This is a lie. I have lived here since 2011. They fixed them for one week and suddenly they were dead again. In two years they worked one week.

AC Unit leaks every year. Roaches despite the best of cleaning efforts. They don't even follow their own rules. My neighbor has an open grill, in plain sight used often. These are not allowed. A person has erected a permanent motor cycle housing. This is not allowed. Nothing has been done about this and they have been notified. Walls are paper thin, you can hear everything.

Random inspections are fine, I have nothing to hide, but they will put notices on your door, say at 5pm Tuesday, and then be in your apartment by 9am Wednesday, no 24 hours notice. Has happened at least 7 times over the last 2 years for me. 

I suggest you try one of the many new apartment complexes opening in Edmond, and be sure to read reviews throughly.

They ultimately suffer, because up until this, I am an awesome tenant. I keep to myself, mostly sleep or am at work, so I don't wear things out. Consistent record of paying my rent on time. So as soon as I can save the money to move their loss.

Friday, March 22, 2013

A Farewell to a Friendship

So one of the most hurtful events to happen was the abandonment of someone I thought I could call a true friend.

She started at my Lowe's store back in 2011. She was friendly as can be, and seemed to really listen to what I said. I remember one of the first things we did was play Lion King on the Sega Genesis. The day was so much fun. To meet someone at random and end up playing Sega. Haha what a time.

We would hang out occasionally. Went out to lunch a lot, particularly Old School Bagel Cafe. Saw some movies. Went to the fair the last two years. Talked alot. I tried to be the best friend I could be. She was so generous about rides to work, offering as much as she could to help me out. I tried to return the favor best I could, even limited as I could be.

Though that was weird even sometimes. I did things out of the goodness in my heart. Yet there always seemed to be this vibe of...well Corrie's nice to me so she must be in love with me" Uh no. I would do the exact same things her long time friends would do but I'd get outcast for this reason. It was like I was too nice. Things I would do for anyone, and have done, that I know she had seen, somehow she was this special case. I could not offer even gas or lunch without her feeling weird or bad about it.

Now it is like I do not exist and I do not know why. She will not talk to me, and I do not dare push it. I learned that lesson years ago. I can speculate a few reasons, but none of them were intentional and most of it is gossip and hearsay from Lowe's. I am so sorry if there is anything I did to cause this.

So while it hurts what was lost, I will always cherish what was had. I forgive her. I can only hope that someday she will see the truth and just how strong and fair along I have made it, realizing just how wrong this was to cut me off.










Sunday, March 10, 2013

Surgery Kickstarter!


So I've been playing around with this idea for awhile, but for fun I thought I would post. All options stack, so if you paid my surgery, you would get everything, and probably my heart to. Anything over $25,000 goes to me going back to school, obtaining a house, and down the line paying it forward and helping others in similar situations. 

A portion of my post surgery income (5-20%, possibly more) will be dedicated to returning all donated funds directly to you or to the charity/person of your choosing. I will post my bills and income as they are available, less health expenses, and from the remainder divide up the funds. There is more to this list, which will be updated as I sort out.

$1-$10

Special thank you card.

$11-$50

Email correspondence granted.

$50-$100

Special invite to my social media pages, likes and activity not guaranteed. Exclusive picture section access.

$100-$500

I'll be your best friend on social media! Likes, game requests, I will respond as much and as often as I can. 

$500-$1000

I will be your game buddy! Xbox, Wii, iOS, Android, and PC only, Includes but not limited to Call of Duty, World of Warcraft, EVE Online, Halo, Diablo 3, and many others. I am open to other systems, I just do not own them. I am also an achievement whore.

$1,000-$2500

A filmed video of your choosing. Respectable and clean only please! For example you could buy me a dress and I will model it for you.

$2500-$9999

A date! I am open for anything, from a movie to go karting to paintball to flying to the beach whatever. Oh and I love to eat out and travel!

$10,000 - $25,000+

Two guaranteed dates! Both Pre-Op and Post-Op. If I like you, you are clean, and there is chemistry, you have a chance at being my last and first! 

$100,000+

Your own companion, think Doctor Who

During the wait for surgery and after surgery/recovery, I will be your indentured servant for five years. More accurately consider me your personal maid. I will run your errands, clean your house, wash your car, watch the kids/pets, whatever you needed me to do that is reasonable, respectable, and not "adult." My only requirement is that I am allowed to attend classes to finish my education, and the ability to either work part time to pay for gas or make up any gaps that may occur. Leftover self earnings will go back to you during that time.

Because with $100,000, I would finish school and have the life I could only imagine. A life I have tried so hard to make and suffered intolerable setbacks.







Friday, February 22, 2013

No Longer Employed - Discrimination, Defamation



I was terminated by my employer, Lowe's, last month. They said I was hurting myself in front of customers and being a danger to others. This was not true. I was scared, did not have a car, and was unable to go to a doctor. Two weeks later I was terminated for hurting myself. I was never asked to write a statement or fill out an incident report, which I always have been told I have to when something happens, even on the most minor things.

My employer said that I did it intentionally, only this time I did not. They kept talking and drilling into my head that I did, but that was not the case. There are plenty of inaccuracies, and the department manager even will say he did not see what was going on, was helping another customer, and has bad eyesight, which is girlfriend will attest to as well. He had to write a statement over it, and he was told yes he had to. This department manager, while he had been a friend, not more than 10 minutes before was talking to another department manager (I do have names) calling me a rat and other hurtful things.

I had went to ask him to please stop and ask why he was doing that at work. Keep in mind earlier that day my head was sore where I had bumped my head on my bathroom counter getting my hair straightener. This manager supposedly was a friend, but he lied on the statement about what happened, a statement I never was given the chance to write.

I had a combination lock from my locker in my hand, I had it in my apron and the weight was dragging it down so I was carrying it. Well he wouldn't talk to me and was ignoring me so I started to cry. I didn't want him to see or anyone else so I tried to cover my face and in the rush, the lock hit my forehead, right where it was knocked earlier by the shelf at home earlier. I started to feel dizzy and sick from that and crying, and grasping for a nearby shelf I lost my balance and my head slammed right into it, busting it open. There was blood all over. The department manager said I need to go back to my department, but then he saw the blood on my head and called for the manager.

After I cut myself after a write up in November, I had been receiving counseling and getting help, which they say I did not. I have documentation, as well as they do that I had been getting help, through services provided by my employer. While I had two incidents on my record, overall I had good attendance, good reviews, and a promotion in the almost three years I was there. My store manager always spoke highly of my customer service skills to management and other employees.

I have reason to believe it is in part due to my transition from male to female at work (transgender) and my mental instabilities from last year due to severe anxiety and depression. It seems that they are basing the recent incident on a past incident and I was termed by them automatically assuming I did it to myself on purpose. I feel so insulted and degraded. I worked the two weeks after the accident with no problems. 

During my termination, not much was said, but I did ask the store manager why I was not able to write a statement. He said it was because the department manager said I did. That raised a flag to me because this department manager has always said he would treat me as one of the guys, and that signals he doesn't approve of my transition so may have fabricated some aspects of the story as well.

The department manager, my former friend, said I was using a knife to hurt myself. Now you can imagine how damaging that would be. He certainly is not acting like my friend anymore, so I am assuming he is not. He immediately deleted me off of Facebook, and won't let his girlfriend have anything to do with me. His words spread throughout the store, causing irreparable damage to my friends and working relationships. I lost one of my close friends Trista I think because of it. Suddenly she will not talk to me or have anything to do with me.

I had also attempted to take a leave of absence over what happened in November, but I was confused by it. My HR refused to provide any meaningful help and kept referring me to the company intranet. I tried on my own several times but I just could not get it.

So I was called into the office and was told I was being separated for what happened. You know what though? I took it well. No. I took it awesome. I sat there, hardly said a word. Absorbed what little they said, called my friend to pick me up, and before I even left I had stopped crying. Made my quiet and surprisingly non escorted exit. It was bizarre, I never  had to sign anything. I asked why I never got to write a statement, and they claimed again I refused. Uh no, every time I asked I was told it was not needed. I was not going to argue though, they said one thing I knew another.

I have also been trying to get my head looked at. The HR will not respond to my requests for assistance. I have called and left emails without any response. If I go to the doctor, every time I tell them what happened, they will not see me without the Lowe's information on what happened. Since this happened I have had severe headaches on my forehead, and I have developed a fairly large scar. My beautiful forehead is ruined and no one seems to care.


Anyway, I have been having a few problems the last few weeks since the injury. It throbs and my head aches, which at first I attributed to just everyday things but it seems to emanate from the spot the shelf made contact. It gets so bad sometimes I feel nauseated and have to lie down. The wound has not healed very well either, despite my best efforts with antibiotic creams (such as generic Neosporin).


I went to,


First Med Urgent Clinic


805 W Covell Rd #200 Edmond, OK 73003
(405) 844-1633


They asked me what happened and where. I told them exactly as I told you. Then the clinic told me they could not see me unless I had the employer insurance information, not my personal insurance, which I tried to use, even asked "why can't I just use the last sliver of my own insurance?"

They said because I stated it was a workplace injury that I needed this information from Lowe's to be treated. They said something about comp and that Lowe's has it's own provider that is to be used. Since I had told them at happened at work they said they said they could not take my personal insurance or just take me as a general admin. I did not know what to say so I left.



I attempted to contact the assistant store manager who took the initial injury report at the store, after I was made aware of this. He stated he was not aware of aware of anything I had to give them. I have since tried to get a hold of my HR and even sent her an email but no response.

On the brightside, people thought I would go and hurt myself, I instead went and applied for over 70 positions with over 15 companies. I received 5 interviews so far.  Started two jobs the past two weeks. Even though it is a cut, I have a car now.

Yes I am devasted my surgery won't be this year. Yet here I am blogging along. So whatever. I am not the crazy, dumb, tranny they thought I was. I am a highly intellectual transwoman with the strength of a thousand and heart the size of planets (well mass wise, not size wise).

Never thought this would happen. Lowe's was supposed to be the one. Needless to say I have contacted the ACLU, EEOC, and the HRC (Human Rights Campaign) and I encourage anyone else in a similar situation to do the same.

Also, if you are a current employee, do not take anything to Janet Gimlin. She flipped everything I said to her back on me.What else are you going to say when you fall and hit a shelf? Most people say "I hit my head on the shelf." When I said it that way she made it sound like I was confessing. Then she accused me of changing my story. No. I had to change my wording because she was using it against me, and not paying attention to what was really going on, nor taking to heart what I was saying.


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Friday, February 15, 2013

Old New

Some pics of the progress I have made 2006-2012. Not the best compared to others but I am getting there given my extremely limited finances.


















Wednesday, February 6, 2013

If my life and dreams were a tv show, it’d be Doctor Who

Wrote this a few years ago but came across it and it is still very true. Gosh do I adore David Tennant :)

So the last blog got me thinking about my dreams, and then I saw an episode of doctor who, and with a great sense of deja vu, I figured out pieces of my life and dreams share similiarities to the character, even though I had these way before I saw the show.

Obviously the main comparison is time travel. As many know it has always been a central point of my imagination, I've read countless books, watched movies, tv shows, if it involves time travel I know about it. Even when I was twelve I was learning about Quantum theory, Paradoxes, Space-Time curvatures, stuff that even then I understood. In the Doctor Who universe, the Doctor is a timelord, last of his kind, and with my old fashioness and unique thought process, sometimes I feel the same way.With time in his blood, he travels in the Tardis, throught the past, present, and future, righting wrongs and saving the day.

Literally in my dreams I've done this, absolutely consicious of it. Though the doctor goes around fixing problems on earth and in the universe, I go back and fix problems in my past, often making for very uncomfortable realities when I wake up. 

Falling under that, many episodes deal with the Doctor ending up in certain historical events in Earth's history. From Shakespeare to Ancient Rome, in fiction the doctors been there, done that. How amazing would it be to talk to Caesar about government, or Galileo about the universe, or Davinci about art and machines? People not tainted by the modern world, but ones who have built the foundation for it, and all we know today?

Of course the Doctor always has a companion at his side, to keep him in line and on the good side. The only part I'm missing, for now anyways. The comparison here is that when that happens, I do want someone that will be willing to travel anywhere (within reason of course), virtually on a whim (which of course in financial limits.) Hey honey we're both off this weekend, lets go see the pyramids! 

Minorly it generally takes place in London, England, and of course everyone has british accents. I absolutely adore it. I know it's not perfect there either, but I always have envisioned Great Britain as a higher class america, with a great sense of culture, and a rich history. 

Of course this is all a tv show, science fiction at it's finest, but it really is worth watching. Closest I get without sleeping, and like I mentioned last month, worth keeping cable for in combination with the history channel (though I did watch a roosevelt special on oeta today, pretty good). Anyway tune into scifi channel and watch!